I have done a ton of internet surfing looking for answers. You know what, there is not a ton of information about surrogacy out there. I found a bunch of organizations who want to help you become a surrogate. They explain how to apply, qualifications, etc. But nothing about risks or what actually goes on. All I could find was that it is like a regular pregnancy with those same risks.
So I thought I would turn to my OB office. Waiting for my appointment in April was killing me. I don't know of any surrogacy offices to contact and can't ask B for hers cause I don't want her to know I am even thinking of this until I am 150% sure I am doing it.
Lucky for me Jean is a L&D nurse at a hospital my OB's work at. Today they had some down time and she brought up my concerns with one of my OB's. After they talk about it a while he disappears only to come back 20 minutes later with some research he had done. He gave Jean the papers and told her to give them to me. THEN he called me! Unfortunately I was on the other line with an insurance company talking about the car accident I was in yesterday so I didn't answer.
Well Dr D left me a lengthy message letting me know that he doesn't know much but what he could find and what he does know is basically I should wait at least 6 months in between pregnancies, there are normal risks that go with any pregnancy, if I can I should talk to a specialist, to call him if I had any questions, he was sorry the way I was treated by the staff and that he hoped me and LittleDarlin (whom he helped with her labor process) were doing good.
Do you see why I LOVE my Dr's? Most Dr's wouldn't have done that. It was such a relief to hear from my own Dr that he didn't feel there were any significant extra risks and that he cared. AND now I don't have to wait a month, get a sitter or pay a copay to ask a few questions!
Later when I talk to Jean she also tells me that he asked her if I was religious. She tells him I am and that is half the reason I am considering being a surro for B and N is because of the feelings I have had. He tells her that he feels that those feelings are very important too when making a decision like this. It is so comforting to know I am not alone on this in more ways than one.
And now, as I am sitting here on Katie's bed typing, I wonder to myself "Really, am I really going to do this?" Letting the logic creep in. I look over at her mirror.
Written on it is ... Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. John 14:27
You should go on YouTube and find some surrogate pregnancy vlogs! I just did a search on there and there are a few ladies (at least) who've done them. Could give you some neat insight in to the whole process! :)
ReplyDeleteThank you, Thank you! I would have never thought of this and it is really interesting and fun to see others stories and what they are going through. It actually makes more excited!
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